Living Each Day Psychologically
We have always been advised to live each day as it is our last and often being asked our last wishes that we will try to fulfil on that unfortunate day. We all will agree having a common wish, the wish to be happy. We desire to spend at-least our last day in most harmonious way. I always wonder people always wish to be happy but when it comes to take action to be one, they are ready to wait for their last day. My moto is "why wait for something to happen when we can create it now". A dedicated hard-work is the common element of all great things; hence it is obviously going to take tremendous strength to build a happy life. Let us begin our happy hard-work by following some achievable tasks.
1. Do Not Take Personally
Everything
People say what people say! We all
have done this sometime or the other, we have yelled at sibling because we were
angry due to an argument we had earlier that day with our mom. See what i am
trying to say is most of the time there is some hidden source of the words.
Like jealousy drives harsh comments on other's success. In this scenario the
jealousy of the person uttering those words should be highlighted rather than
feeling hurt from their words. Pity them for they have to struggle with this
malice. There is no reason to be upset because of what they say. Let them
struggle. And when it comes to our family and friends, just try to be
understanding a lot more and have a transparent communication.
2. Be Kind, Acts of Kindness
Boost Confidence
Show kindness as much as you can.
Everyone has their issues in life, everybody is dealing with something on a
daily basis. Always remember to give as much space and empathy to everyone as
you would like for yourself. Being kind does not mean to help beyond your
capacity and damage your own soul. It means understanding the fact that you are
not the one who can solve other's problem but surely can be by there side to
provide support. A drop of faith can bring a stir in the ocean. Always show
your faith to the people and help them believe in themselves. But, remember
never lose your spark to light someone else's lamp, instead use your light to
pour some shine to guide other's dark path.
3. Arrange Regular Meet-Ups with
Friends and Family
We all have had great many fights
with our parents only to be allowed to hang out with our friends a little more.
Now, that you are an adult why have you forgotten that struggle and also the
peace and fun you got when you were around your friends. It's time to reignite
that thrill. Go! Hurry up! Pick up your phone and make a plan now! Friends
bring the carefree side of us. We need to feel non-judged, say whatever first
comes in our mouth and then laugh on that. Do stupid things and make memories.
Each memory helps you to survive the moments of stress which are always ready
to invade your castle of fun.
4. Ranting Is Good
It's true always discussing your
problems is not only boring to people who hear you but also is a source of
negativity for your own selves. But a heavy and spontaneous ranting is all you
need to get everything irritating you out of your system. Always choose people
in whom you have blind faith. Switch on the ranting mode and speak for 5
minutes straight. Do not filter what the words just blurt them out. You will
find half of the things bothering you earlier seem to be unimportant after the
rant session. This process has the success rate of 100% and give you a broader
perspective after the chaotic picture is out of your brain.
5. Kickstart Lost Hobbies and Discharge the Negative Energy
Half of the time we get anxious
because we find ourselves trapped in a world where we are doing things only for
money but not for ourselves. So, what's the wait. Bring out that harmonium
start practicing your music or find that diary in which you wrote magical
stories. It is necessary to be contended in life. Hobbies are not activities we
do to pass time; they are the gifts endowed by God on us. They are our own
sacred way of worshipping and having a peaceful space where it is just us and
our thoughts. It is a way to spend time with yourself. If you think there is no
time in your schedule, try taking only five minutes for your hobbies. Use that
coffee break to read, draw or hum a song. If possible, try to merge your hobby
and earning source into one entity.
6. Eat Healthy and Tasty
What goes in the stomach affects
the working of the entire body. After all it is the fuel. Food is the fuel.
Healthy eating habits take a long time to inculcate in your life but once they
do there is never looking back. Monitor the food you eat, the way your body
responds to certain type of food. Have at-least two appointments with a
nutritionist and you will get to know what you need. Eating healthy is a choice
that should be made as early as possible. Good food enhances our mood and we
feel emotionally lighter all day.
7. Some Cheat Days Are Allowed
I know! I know! You are not a
saint. I request you to have a cheat and eat whatever you want, but please
there should be only one day of the month when you can eat junk. Okay, make it
a little bit relaxing, eat the junk occasionally. For say, restrict yourself to
eat un-healthy but a lot tastier food only on birthdays, parties and when you
are unable to cook food at home. The reason behind this practice is, when you
finally get to eat junk, it will give you thrill and happiness of getting a
reward. After so many days of restricting when you finally allow yourself
to eat your favourite food it will bring you a proud feeling of fulfilling a
commitment from you to you that you honoured honestly. The validation comes
from within and you just acknowledge your efforts. Kudos to you.
8. Push Yourself to Exercise And Start Meditation
It is a well known fact that
exercise releases happy hormones, activates your metabolism and kills laziness.
It is the free medicine that simultaneously brings both the physical and mental
fitness. It helps you to get in sync with your body, after sometime you will
start to even enjoy that part of the day. It will lead you to have a systematic
routine which will organize your day which in turn bring your mind in order.
And that sexy body that you are going to have, that I guess is the best prize
of all the effort, right? Along-with a workout regime bring in the meditation
part gradually. Meditation helps you gain self-awareness and self-control. The
time you devote for meditation is the time you are deliberately choosing to sit
in silence and avoid all that mayhem of the world. You can have introspection
going on every time you sit to meditate or it could be the time you have a
little chat with God. You can do anything that brings you peace.
We all have built a tightly
scheduled life in which a bringing a slight change will cause something next to
havoc. It is quite delusional to think that we can create the above-mentioned
life the next morning itself. It is not possible. But what you can do is start
with five minutes and go with the flow. If I denote 5 minutes to every task I mentioned
above it is going to take only 40 minutes of your 24 hours. Trust me this much
time you easily use in scrolling social media which only destroys your peace
and health. Use this time for your well-being. Give a trial period of 3 months
(it is free of cost) and you will definitely get results, but always remember
consistency is the key.